I’m not being Rude, I’m Self-Regulating

“Because our culture does not often keep in mind how my mind and body work, I use self-regulation. Self-regulation can mean a lot of different things to each person. It could mean I have to walk around during a meeting or doodle while you are talking to be engaged with the conversation. Walking around can be distracting and doodling can seem like I’m not paying attention, but I actually AM engaged and listening. For those of us with anxiety, twisting our hair in our fingers could mean the difference between joining in the conversation or needing to step out of the room. Whether it’s not making eye contact or walking around during a meeting, don’t see it as being rude. I’m simply self-regulating so I can BE and WORK with you.”